Scared and Disturbed

After a pretty usual day of attending classes and gossiping around with my friends, i finally tuck myself into my bed. Like every other night i make promises to myself about how tomorrow i will get up and change the world. And like every other day, deep down i know i will wake up barely before class and the only thing that I will change is my PJs. As I laugh and crib over myself,i pick my phone and start surfing social media to stalk and judge every body i know, when i come across something that breaks my heart and shatters my soul. I wipe my tears away as i get up and sit upright. No i didn’t come across the news of my crush’s new love interest. Neither was it the death of my favourite celebrity. As i now type this, i so hope it was one of the above. 
I had actually stumbled upon this news article about the rape of an 8 month old girl, by her 28 year old drunk cousin, in the national capital of the world’s largest democracy, my Bharat Mata.

Now this is not the first time I have read such a news. The latest available statistics are pretty grim already. 106 women were raped daily in 2016. A UN Committee on the Rights of the Child in 2014 said one in three rape victims in India was a minor. More than 19,000 children were raped in 2016.

Some one, adult or minor, is probably being raped now as I write and another one as you read.

What was new then?

Well, for the first time I somehow wondered could this baby have been someone i know? Is it possible it was my darling niece, my whole extended family dotes upon? Could it possibly be my own daughter in a few years? Could it have been me years ago? Could it be me tomorrow?

And each time I gave myself an affirmative response, each time my heart let out a shriek and my eyes swelled up more.

Anyone of you who reads this will on the first instance just shirk it off and tell me I am thinking over unnecessarily. And my mother might even make me keep some fast and force temple visits to undo the bad thoughts i have thought.

But nothing will change the fact that I am scared. Aren’t you?
Even if we are the few blessed ones, who will never be a victim ,what about this 8 month old baby who was raped?
All the talks and debates about the possible “causes” of rape are hollow in this case.

Was she probably giving wrong hints?

Could her loud tear jerking cries when her cousin tried to penetrate her , possibly be pleasure moans?

Was it her karma , maybe of her past births?

Or like many great leaders of our time have pointed out every time, it was probably her modern and western sense of fashion and clothes- her diaper was too short it seems.

Why else would a grown up man think it was okay to rape her? Why else would he think that it is okay to let the baby remain in her own pool of blood and walk off after he did his business?
Why else would he think that it is okay for him to even exist on this planet and be blessed with this gift called life?

Yes, now that this case has come to limelight , the public outrage will ensure he gets his share of punishment. But will his punishment make everything okay? Is this justice?

Months ago, the #metoo movement on Facebook had got people to sit up and take notice. Sexual Harassment was something every girl around us faces in such frequency that it has for us become a part of our daily routine. Itna to chalta hai.
Okay, the question then is kitna nahi chalta?
What is the point after which we feel, that limit has been crossed?
No, don’t answer me. It is not the limits i am concerned about.
Whatever be the limits, what are we doing to ensure they are not crossed for us, our friends, our family and anyone else for that matter?

Doesn’t your blood boil, each time some “leader” gives out statements blaming western culture for bad influence and in the same breath claiming that men are men, and such little mistakes and incidents are bound to happen?
Our elected politicians, our revered god-men and the chaar log we have always heard about will speak and do what they will, not what is right.

Maybe now is the time for us, you and me, the educated class of this society to put our foot down , speak up and take the right steps.

We all know the basic rigour to solve a problem. Accepting there is a problem. Understand the underlying causes. Working on these causes to solve the problem . Now that we all are well aware of the problem, let’s try and find the reasons behind it. 

The irony that discussing about sexual intercourse is something that is looked down upon by the society and yet, all of us are expected to have sex and produce kids by this very society, could be a possible starter for discussions.

The fact that all our movies, television shows and even advertisements are objectifying women as sex baits to sell themselves, drives home the point about how sick our mentality is.
You can probably count on your fingers the number of daily soaps, that do not have a plot revolving around men fighting for that one woman, whose only part in the show is to look pretty and safeguard her virginity.

Isn’t that all women are for, after all?

At this point of time i am completely clueless, scared, disturbed and on a lookout for answers.

I want to know what people around me, with the best of education and family support think are the causes of such rapes?

Why is our national capital casually referred to as the “Rape Capital”?
How does a human being , in all his right senses even think the thought of raping another human being, let alone a child or an infant?
An 8 month old baby barely knows how to sit up right and someone is willing to satisfy themselves out of that so called little bundle of parent’s joy! 

I want to know when and how and why did our society turn so wrong that this is “yet another incident” and not an one-off incident. When and how and why did we get so accustomed to reading about brutal rapes ,without expressing shock anymore? 

Allow me to be selfish, for I want to know how I , a woman with a fully developed body, a woman who wears jeans and skirt, a woman who needs to travel day in and out for her job , will be safe when even these teeny tiny kids are not spared?

Is it all a merely the play of good and bad luck?

Everyday i step out of my home, should I just hope that I won’t be raped, is that all I can do?

IS THAT ALL WE CAN DO?

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The new word of the town *OFFENDED*

Offended? Really that’s all you got ? May be you could have tried “Bored ” Or  “Tired” Or even  the F word! But , why offended darling ?

Well , this is  in reference to the latest Tanmay Bhatt CONTROVERSY. For the uninformed, this guy is a stand up comedian , who made a FUN Video about two Indian celebrities and posted it on social media. The fans of these celebrities got ” offended ” by it and want it removed. 

I really don’t know whether its real public who express their anger on such “Issues” or are they the ” Robots” we always have to prove we aren’t by entering those captchas ?? 

Because this fact is quite disturbing. No , not the existence of robots on Facebook.

But the fact that even in this age and time people got so much free time and emotions that their sentiments get hurt on  each and every joke that is ever made?

Do they Google the most silly thing present today, watch it and then get offended? 

Because ,lets make things clear first. I personally did not find the video even funny. Neither did my friends ( I made them watch it 😛 )  There was no joke .   😦
 And may be that’s the only thing i was hurt about. My expectations not being fulfilled. 

This has become a trend, specially in India. Not only in regard to this video, its just a needle in the haystack! People are using their “Right to speech” to take away other’s right to speech . 

Oh , you say it’s not Good for the society ?

Well yes. There are many things not good for the society. Unlike them , this has a solution. Don’t like it? DONT WATCH IT . Simple 🙂

Because if you were really worried about the society , you would have long gone ,thanks the heart attacks and nervous breakdowns you would have suffered.

Because you would have been hurt ,each time a girl was raped.Whether she was wearing a skirt or whether she was a 2 year old kid !

There would have been a threat to your religious sentiments, each time an innocent animal was sacrificed in the name of faith! And not when a person poked fun at some Godman.

 It would have pained you to see dirty naked little tiny kids beg on the streets in the scorching summer. And then get elated even on receiving a single rupee.

Your anger would have lost its limits when you would have come across the crores of taxpayer’s money being used by corrupt politicians for their Birthday celebrations. Not when a Bollywood movie was made .

You would have been offended when a young Indian sport-star was unable to represent his country , not for the lack of talent , but for the lack of proper infrastructure . And not when someone wore a skirt to her tennis match ..

Trust me , you would have been offended by humanity , every time you read that another bomb was dropped off in Syria or Pakistan or Palestine or  some other place. (Only that would have happened , in case you were actually aware that the world does not revolve around you  🙂 )

And since you are alive and kicking, I am sure none of this happened. There was never an outrage over any of these. Do not mention the various Tweets or Re-tweets or Facebook posts you have shared for the cause. The truth is , they DON’T MATTER . ( Heart breaking , is it ? ) 

 This only  proves you don’t bat an eye lid for the cause of the society.
You are one bored human , who wants cheap publicity by misusing other people’s names.

Calling me selfish , are you ? Well, I will take that as a compliment.  It’s better than being a dual faced hypocrite . Any day!. Try it out  🙂 


P.S
 This does not mean I support non sense humour. I just don’t violently oppose it. These people work for trps.  Dont trend them on media , they will understand and give you better jokes next time 😀 

 

Officially Welcomed: the Liebster Award!!

Hello everyone 😀

A few hours late, thanks to a “story writing competition” i took part in. Yes it was called END SEMESTER EXAMS .  😛

Anyways, Today is the day to be happy and proud. And Happy again. 😀
I have been officially welcomed to the blogosphere by my fellow bloggers Manahaal (She Reflects Blog ) and Unnati (Stories from my diary ❤ ) 😀 . (Do check out their blogs 🙂 )

They have both nominated me for THE LIEBSTER AWARD !! 😀 . Thank you so much ladies . 🙂

Now for the unknown , The Liebster Award is given out by bloggers to fellow bloggers who are new to the blogging community . Obviously , if you appreciate the blog :D.

The Rules of the Game :
1. Acknowledge the blogger(s) who nominated you. 
2. Provide 10 random facts about yourself .
3. Answer the 11 questions that you have been asked. 
4. Nominate 5-11 other newbie bloggers , you find interesting.
5. Ask them 11 Questions. 
And so the process continues . 

So ,well, Let’s begin  😀

Facts about me . I would rather call them as DISCLAIMERS! : 

1. The very basics : I am an almost 22  year old girl ( woman? ) from India. 🙂
2. Still a student. 
3. I will always prefer drinking over eating. Fruit juices and Lassi that is. 😉 
4. I love to Brush my teeth. The fresh after taste is superb 😛
5. A true Cancerian woman I am : Friendly, Sensitive , Caring , Moody and really sexy ! 😛
6.I sleep with the pillow above my head.
7. I can be a very mean Grammar Nazi sometimes. 😉
8.I have watched F.R.I.E.N.D.S for an infinite number of times. 
9.I love to do the Dhinchak Bollywood dance. If there’s music around, You can’t stop me mate !
10. The Full Moon is my idea of beauty 🙂

Well , time to answer your questions :D.

Usually people have 11 questions to answer, but being the lucky girl with 2 nominations I have 22 to go. 
Hope you read it all ! 😀

1.Who are you ? ( In one sentence only) : I am the girl you  always find staring at something (someone actually 😉 )
2.Do you believe education is same as learning? : NO. You learn a lot from heart-breaks ! 😛
3.If you could start over, what would you change? : I have a very lousy way of sitting. I would definitely improve my posture .
4.Who is your favourite person? : Phoebe Buffay. Only if she was real.
5. What is something people would be surprised to know about you? : Surprises are surprising ,if they come out as planned. So sshh!!!
6. Favourite author and their best book? : No favourite author. But a very favourite book. Gone with the wind ❤
7. If given a chance to be invisible , what would you do ? : Definitely , burglary!
8.Would you rather only be able to whisper or be able to shout? : Whisper . And carry a loud speaker always.
9.What is happiness for you ? : My mother’s happiness.
10.Would you rather be able to open your mouth or never be able to close your eyes? : Open my mouth. I want to sleep with my eyes closed.
11.Your inspiration and why so ? : Calvin from Calvin and hobbes. Why ? See here :Of roles and Models
12. What’s your favourite food? : I am not a One food woman ;). But my sister’s favourite is Dal Makhani. So that’s like national food for my family 😛
13.Your favourite song ? : ” Neele Neele ambar par” ..la la la laaa
14. Are you studying to become what you want to or what your parents want you to become? : Well , i am studying what my parents want to become what i want to become. Rich . 🙂
15.If given a chance to go on a date with a celebrity , who would that be ? : Hands down .SHAHRUKH KHAN . ❤
16.Define success : The feeling you get when you think your efforts have been rewarded.
17. Are you happy with your life ?: Yes. But who doesn’t want a little more ? 😉
18. What’s your favourite memory as a child? : Getting ready for school 🙂
19. What is the biggest achievement of your life till now ? : Making it to IIM Ahmedabad.
20. What’s your life’s purpose? : To make sad people happy 😀
21. Who came first , the egg or the chicken ? Explain the reason. : The chicken.  Because Chandler Bing said so 😛 
22. How do you handle negative people? : By making weird faces at them. And then Writing about it . 🙂

Yayy. Did it 😀

Now for the almost last part, I nominate the following bloggers 🙂

  • Vyomika singh
  • Jamie Gibson
  • Shubdha Kulkarni
  • Khan’s Lantern
  • Awkward Babble
  • Debbie Studios
  • Over analysing literature (P.S  I don’t know if all of you are new bloggers but i have come across your blog recently and would love to know you more : )Alrighty guys , Here are your questions . Have Fun 🙂

    1. Are you a morning person or a night person ?
    2. Whose birthday after yours are you really excited about ?
    3. Would you exchange your life with some one else? Who would it be?
    4. What is your ultimate time travel destination?
    5. would you want to change your name? To what?
    6.Ever slapped a person in public? Wanted to ?
    7. The Best day of your life till now?
    8. Your favourite dish?
    9 . A tagline for yourself :
    10 . The last line of your biography would be?

    That’s it people. Thank you for being such a patient reader.
    Go on , share your opinions about me now 😀 😀

 

 

 

DAY 1 : Things that make me Happy .

I have a new name for myself.

 Ms Lazybones.

 I am so lousy , so lazy and yet so pretty ^-^ . ( lame as well ? 😛 )

This blog has been around , waiting for me to update it and I  am all like, No, Not today. For days and weeks.
So  for the sake of you, My Peppynoytes, I take up a challenge.

The 30 Day writing challenge.  b1

I am going to blog.
Random things.
About me.
About life.
About us 🙂

And today its going to be the 10 THINGS THAT MAKE ME REALLY HAPPY.

This looks so easy ans simple to list. But do you realise the amount of pain I had to go through when I was striking off some points “ that could not make it to the list”??? Oh boy! Do you ?

So well with a hand on my heart and a billion dollar smile on my face , lets get started

1. Home made food.  b3
To understand why this is on number 1 , you would have to be either a hosteller or a corporate victim , who survives on McD and Dominos for 4 out of 7 days a week . 😦
My plate may not be served with all those luxurious and impossible- to- pronounce dishes.Just  Plain, pure, boring food made by my mom . Dal Chawal , if you must.
I will relish that  to the last bite. OM NOM NOM all the way!

2.Talking.b4
Anytime. Anywhere. Anyone .( Okay, not every one actually :P) . Anything. I love to chatter away all the time. Never too lazy for that . 😀
You will listen me blabber about my life. Your crush. SRK’s movies .The new restaurant.Lilly singh. Pretty much anything.

3.New clothes.
Crisp. Clean. Pretty clothes. Its like I don’t even need any accessories the first time I wear a new dress. I have  a 100 watt smile pasted across my face. 😀

4. Reading. Old books.b5
Like the really old –rusty –brown paged books.  I  am not a kindle person  by choice.  The feeling when you hold a book and curl up in your bed , its beyond my capability to describe in words. And their smell? Oh My God!  It drives me crazy. I feel like it even turns me on! 😉

5. Helping Friends.
I feel so satisfied when I am of use to my friends. Whether its giving advices, listening to their troubles or even giving my notes.
Yeah I also feel happy when I help them pass a test, but can’t say it in public with so many judge-y eyes looking at me “ That’s not what a friend would do!”. Yes. But exam time  is not the time to  preach. Just tell the answers . 😛 😛 .

6.Writing . b8
Of course. This HAD to be on the list. Framing sentences with just the right choice of words to describe exactly what you are feeling. That’s an achievement. And the pleasure is all mine *-*.
But i don’t like typing . So you see, that’s how it all gets delayed 😀
Give me a pen and paper. All my notebooks have my many  masterpieces jotted down in them . 😛

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When the sun is displaying all its might and you shut the drapes, drink a glass of cool water , close your eyes and just get lost in the magical word of “Sleep”. Nothing calms me down more than this. I don’t even realise what day or century it is sometimes when I wake up . Oh yes.  I  am back to reality again .    -_-

8.The October weather.
The clear bright sky. Cool breezes. The nature at its best , if you ask me. Its not biting cold. Its not burning hot. Neither is it still and dull.  Its just perfect. I am at my peppiest and happiest best in Octobers.

“Outside, a gusty October breeze was combing leaves from the trees and sending them across her backyard in colorful skitters.”

Stephen King, Full Dark, No Stars

9. My BIRTHDAYS.
With the entire world wishing me to be happy on that day , can I help not being THE HAPPIEST this day?  Oh I love the attention , the wishes  and of course the gifts that I receive .  I am on top of the world on the 6th of july . ( You see what I did there ? ;). Yes wish me this year 😛 ).
And I feel like I must mention here , that it’s the entire concept of birthdays that make me happy.  Who was the great person  to have thought of it!  I feel like it would be a woman. Am I too sexist ? 😛 . But guys  are just so normal even on birthdays! :P.
Everything looks so beautiful and decorated. then there is that delicious fancy cake 😀

10. The WEIRD STUFF.
okay . I may come across as insane, but there is this one thing that literally makes me so happy , I feel like blessing anyone who comes across.
 You see, with the sweet blood I have, a lot and believe me A LOT of mosquitoes bite me. Specially on my feet.  NO! THIS DOESN’T MAKE ME HAPPY!!.
But when I pour ice cold , chilly water on these bites, it’s a heavenly feeling altogether. And no, don’t put your feet under the tap. Don’t ruin it. Slowly  and slowly. Drop by drop . Treasure the pleasure ,mate!

There I did it.  10 things 😀
Lets see what tomorrow brings . ❤

Manners cost nothing. Try them maybe?

Have you ever felt the need to literally bang your head on the wall , so hard that each nerve of your brain smashes and blood oozes out and the muscles cant go back to their regular contraction and relaxation ,because they become so rigid?

No?

Me neither.

But what i am feeling is the need to bang my head slightly till it hurts a bit and then kick myself in the face. Actually just pretend to .

(Now who would want to hurt such a pretty face ? 😉 )  This I am sure , you have too.

Had it not been the land of Mahatma , the pioneer of non violence, I would have done this to others , though.

Because its so frustrating to literally experience the lack of basic etiquettes from human beings around you.

And lo! i am not even asking for them to you know ,  RSVP me about the dinner party  I invited them too ! Because, its too much too ask from people who give a ” miss call” ( a  single ring and then they disconnect) ,cos they missed my call earlier. -_-

So dear, if you are one these , then take this post as a final chance , an ultimatum to rectify your ways of dealing with me and other normal people ,before we take the first few lines literally , except just use your head instead! 😛 😛

Yes i know its difficult for you suddenly change and become a better manner-full person in just a few days. You haven’t been able to do that in at least two decades of your existence, so i understand the difficulty. Lets just try baby steps this time.

Try ,try and try harder till you don’t succeed in not doing the following. Okay ? 🙂

  • Borrowing things and having a memory loss :  In case you weren’t aware of the beautiful word “Return” ,let me teach it you . One of the many meanings of the words is to Give BACK , hand BACK , send BACK , anything you take. So whether its money,clothes,books or even a pen , for the love of God, “return”it back to its owner, before you loose the memory of having borrowed anything at all. If you want to keep it , Steal it . Do not Borrow it and keep it . Okay ? 🙂

 

  • Awakening the DJ spirit at odd hours and places : Yeah , I know you love music . Music is love for eternity. Its calm and soothing. And its the soul of every party :D. But, start playing those party numbers at 3 in the night or in the library or in the train , trust me , i will make you eternal . Okay ? 🙂 .Yes. Those earphones can save you , obviously !

 

  • Being the loud speaker : You love to talk? That’s good. Talking helps share our feelings with friends. But if you talk in those decibels , your friends will go deaf. And your secrets will be out in the open if there are people around you, not your friends. we don’t want to know what your boyfriend asked you to wear.Neither are we interested to laugh on the joke you thought was funny  .  So well, just Ssshhhhh…Okay? 🙂

 

  • So are you the Rude Dude ? : Do you have that inner god/goddess of yours tell you that you are the master of the world ? And that the other earthly beings are just some support staff? Heart breaking as it may be, its not true darling . Speak only what you can listen. Okay ? 🙂

 

  • The Damsel in Distress. Forever.! : You are my favourite kind. I am in awe of your sheer ability to play this card every time you are asked to do some work. You are always sick . You are always unaware. And oh You are also always the victim. Fellow , these things work once and twice. Other times , the people around you are just being generous and ignorant. Get a grip of yourself and stop trying to find ways to excuse yourself. Do some work. Contribute to this world, you otherwise little piece of waste. Okay?

 

  • The private users of public property : Its called Public for a reason, mate!. Its OURS. Not MINE. Stop scribbling on the tables, stop tearing the seat covers , you get it . As one friend points out ” Leave your toilet and Newspaper just the way you want it”. Okay? 🙂

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Hoping for the best as always  😛 😛 .

Ahhh..finally! Writing down all of it  has so eased down my frustration . Its time I welcome my cheery self back again  :*  ❤

P.S : Do share your views of other such dramatic kinds of people to be wary of. It may help them 😛 😛

 

The Fear of The Stupid .

Well it exists . It is called ” Dumasaphobia ” or The fear of stupid people .

And i just dont have a fear , I am dead scared!!! And that’s partly because, i dont know what reaction their actions can cause in me!  I am scared for them actually. 😉

SO , do you suffer from any such ” phobia” ?? . you may not know it as of now , but it is indispensable to have a reality check .

We will start with WHO ?

Who  are these people?

Do they look different from us ? maybe four legs , two above and two below??

No. It doesn’t matter how much i wish they start growing legs on their heads ,the fact is they look normal.

like you and me .

They  could be anyone , your classmates, your co workers , your neighbour ,just any one . They can be found in groups and could also be a one man army . but here’s the catch  – do not underestimate the loner!

Next comes the most important question : HOW TO IDENTIFY ONE?

Now this can be really tough to begin with , because out there , stupids can be seasoned ones or  novices .

The seasoned ones bring out this voice from within you , every damn time you see them , hear them or even think of them  – ” Slap. The . Idiot. Slap. Now. Slap. Slap. ”

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oh! this is so me !! 😛
This is because you have tried and tested all other basic prevention tips like ignoring , giving them more chances, sympathising with them and worse of all even “participating with them”

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( God knows what all i have gone through in this last stage 😛 )

The beginners are  the ones you still use the above techniques with 🙂

The last part is about HOW MANY ? If  you feel that there are just a handful of stupids , you can calm down and relax. ( You could be one of these though 😛 ).

But if you are anything like me , you should be worried!! Because every third person i meet turns out to be stupid. (At least since the last three years i have joined college 🙂 .)

Any SYMPTOMS you may ask ? Well i can only  share my experiences with you

I feel my veins will pop out of my head. Once the ” actions” start i just stare into blank space and count my heartbeats rising.

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My voice becomes inaudible because i am actually shrieking in the ultrasonic frequency range . 🙂  They think they are being cute and funny and cute again , but to me, they are just being irritating and cranky fools. It becomes impossible for me to even sit straight faced . My head aches. And then , in the end i only think how unfair God has been to them :(.

Now that you have read about it all , i welcome you to my world . But lets not be sad about it . We the ” dumasaphobics ” will not let the power of stupid boggle us down . WE WILL FIGHT . 😛  😛  😛 . Lets say our prayers together

Amen .
Amen .

I  am still working on the tips to fight for our rights, on ways to tackle the attack of the stupid. Will post them soon. If you have any suggestions do share 🙂 .

P.S-  I learnt  the word DUMASOPHOBIA ,when i tumbled across this site

http://www.dumasaphobia.com/

P.P.S  I would like to give my thanks to the creators of Minions and the most awesome site http://www.pinterest.com . My posts are so lost without you guys . 🙂